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How to Be Single

If you are single and you are not having fun while doing that, then it is likely that you are doing it all wrong.

You must have observed from the society around you that being single at 20, 35 or worse still 40 is the worst fortune that could befall you. People in general, will start perceiving you as a socially backward person. And they can start giving you the "back seat" in some activities.
Your friends might start start leaving you out of some of their chats. That's because they feel like you have nothing to contribute.

What does this mean for you?

Seeing all these social stigma associated with being single might make you to rush to  the nearest hook up bar, pick and marry any man that first meets you.

However, before you do that you should know that you are not alone in this. In fact, a lot of men and women are choosing to be single each passing day. It's a world wide trend that a lot of people are yet to see.

Want proof?

According to recent data from Pew Research Center, a huge number of men and women are single. More than half of people who are over the age of 18 years (the age of marriage) are still to have a life partner.

What's more?

 Experts in demography and societal behavior have noted that marriage is becoming quite obsolete - especially in America.

So, this is what you should do...

Instead of going into dabbling into a marriage that will end up in a divorce as soon as it had begun, or get a guy that will make you miserable and abused for the rest of your life, why not pause for a moment and enjoy a little 'me' time.

That is exactly what this tokoHow guide is about. It contains a list of actions that you should take each day in order for you to start making the most that you possibly can out of your "I am single" status.

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A woman single at 30



1. Figure Out Why You Don't Want to Be in a Relationship 

Let's face it, your decision to be single must have a cause. The reason for taking on this status could be varied.
 It could be that you have not found the perfect person yet.

Or it could be that you probably don't like how some of the guys that you dated in the past treated you. It could even be that you don't like the amount of time that you are sacrificing just to meet up with the demands of the relationship.
Not withstanding what it is, you need to figure it out.

Why?

There is no doubt that a lot of people are after whatever what makes them happy. Following this line of logic, one can assume that you forsook all relationships because you think that being on your own can make you happy. Therefore, if you don't know exactly what caused you to decide to start chasing the green fields of happiness by yourself, then it will be hard for you to even satisfy yourself.

My point is this, you should identify what it is that you want most out of relationships so as to enable you to work it out for yourself - alone. It will serve as a kind of road map for your the entire duration that you are under the label of "single".





2. Dress Like You Own the Place

You should know and note this - being single doesn't imply that your life has been turned upside down.
What it actually means that you are free.

And as a person who is enjoying the cool and fresh breath of freedom, you should not dress haggardly.

I get it. Some time after the divorce, you are expected to deal with a lot of nervous or emotional problems. That's normal. Everyone does it - including fools.

In order to stand out of the pack, you need to show your ex-wife or ex (whatever) that you are made of a harder mettle.

Therefore...

Instead of lying inside your room wallowing in thoughts and going out to buy groceries with a hargered, tartared and nasty look; make out time to dress yourself very well.

In fact, as a rule of thumb, if you have been noted to be someone that dresses in a " just okay" manner while you still have your partner around, start wearing clothes from the latest fashion trends once you are single.

If you are in the possession of ears that could detect the slightest sound, then you might as well hear murmurs like these - "wow", " she looks so adorable ", " Who is that beautiful lady over there" e.t.c

Always aim at dazzling people with your appearance.






3.  Don't Lock Up Yourself - Connect More.

Man is a social animal. We cannot do without that. And day after day, stories of people who succeeded in their life endeavors are published.

And one common feature that could be observed in most (if not all) of these stories is that they are single. That is to say that they don't have any lover or someone that they are sharing one part of their heart with.

What that implies is that most of the "single men and women" in the world today are the "movers and shakers" of the world today.

But wait...

You should know that even though that those guys made some very useful contributions towards the development of the world (think Zuckerberg), they were not entirely single - they were not alone.

They had friends. They had family. They meet them.

So, after you had alked it quits with your lover, don't lock yourself up in the house thinking that you have finally reached the end of the road in your life.

You haven't. It's only beginning.

The truth is that no man is an island. And you will soon lose your sanity and everything else if you give it a try long enough.

Meet your friends. Meet with your family.

You will be amazed at how quickly depression and anxiety will flee from your side. And your soul will be lit with happiness gloriously like the sun emerging after a long night.



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